What men do not want to do however, is to invest in relationships that are not fulfilling, and do not provide value to their life. In fact, most men would actually desire that. The simple answer is that by and large men don’t really have an issue to stay with just one woman. This belief that men just want to play the field, ends conversations and doesn’t ask the important question why don’t men commit? Very, very few men are capable of going out alone without having the “creep” label attached, and most people will just assume he’s out there to get laid. This shaming of men’s intentions also extends to other aspects of their life, such as when a man wants to go out alone to a bar or club. One is the recent creation of the word “fuckboy” (interestingly however, people who mock the fuckboy also criticize slut shaming). The end meaning of “men only want one thing” is a criticism and shaming of men’s behavior and a pointed remark that a lifestyle of casual dating is “wrong” while entering and committing to long term relationships is “the right way”.Įxamples of this abound. By opposition, a woman’s desires are somehow nobler and purer. The problem is that men’s desires are frowned upon as base and instinctive. But popular belief says that women want a connection and emotional commitment from the opposite sex, and not just “one thing”.Īt first glance, this doesn’t sound like such an outrageous distinction between men and women. If it didn’t, then the phrase might as well be gender neutral “people only want one thing”, which doesn’t quite have the same ring to it.Īfter many thousands of years, we still don’t quite have a scientific answer for that. Part of the subtlety of the phrase is that if men only want one thing, then by definition it must mean that “women want more than one thing”. An implicit meaning that women want “more than one thing” But “men only want one thing” and other phrases like it create todays cultural background that guides how men and women interact with one another. Of course, the phrase is said as a joke most of the times. The phrase is an example of how society at large enjoys perpetuating the notion, humorously or otherwise, that men are robots with simple programming and that all their efforts are directed towards their next sexual conquest. The ‘one thing’ in this case is of course sex. It’s easy to drop it as “sage advice” in a real life discussion that’s strayed into the more spicy areas of how men and women interact with each other. You’ve probably heard of the phrase “men only want one thing”.
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